Raising the Brat

Before you begin raising the red flags I want to clarify that NO, I did not have any kids while I was away. But I learnt some valuable life lessons and considering that half the parents out there today are busy popping babies out like the popcorn machine with no inkling as to how to go about raising them to be responsible global citizens, I thought I should share my hard-earned knowledge. Yes. You're welcome.

A friend of mine from college was in Seattle a few days back and he got in touch with me through our oh-so-popular social networking site. To be honest, when I read his message, I had mixed feelings. Now you might ask why I wasn't thrilled at the prospect of meeting someone I knew from way back in college, and that too in a foreign setting considering I don't have a ton of guests coming over often. To truly understand this you have to know something about me. I'm a closet antisocial. The reason I use the term 'closet' is because anyone who has even remotely interacted with me knows that my absolute favourite activity of the day is to blabber away endlessly with anyone and everyone I meet, thus wasting precious time when other great ones out there are busy trying to save the world. So in a nutshell, my philosophy is 'talk till your tonsils burst'. However, I'm also a slave of routine and this is where things get complicated. Throw in a fancy dinner at a time when I would normally vegetate on my couch glued to the television with eyes popping out of their sockets, and I turn into a nervous wreck; shifting in his seat, curling up under his comforter, whining. And this is exactly what my friend proposed. A fancy dinner. On a MONDAY. I think I lost faith in God for a moment.

Anyway, I accepted the invitation. Since I knew Brat from before, and he was more than just an acquaintance who shared my skill of making unending small talk, I figured that for once I might actually enjoy doing something different. Although I remembered he had been party to an incident which involved almost setting a college residence room on fire, I decided to ignore the warning bells. Needless to say, since he was the one who was visiting Seattle, the onus was on me to decide the restaurant. Fair enough. A virtual conversation ensued.

Brat: Yo! You up for dinner on Monday?
Me: (After overcoming that longstanding inward strife) Sure. Where do you wanna go?
Brat: I was thinking of going to a non-Mexican ethnic place.

How incredibly racist, I thought. Or maybe he just didn't like Mexican food, or had an overfill of it in California. Just to keep things more interesting, I decided to stick with my former opinion.

Me: (After spending a good amount of time looking up non-Mexican ethnic dining options in Seattle and cursing myself for having said yes) I know this really cool Vietnamese place in Downtown. Or else we could try out one of  the sea food joints along the waterfront. That place is gorgeous. What say?

Brat: (Replying almost immediately) Dude, can we try out Ethiopian?

Pehle bolna chahiye tha na! Idiot. Way to make someone come up with an array of choices and crushing them with something this specific. Jerk. So off I went looking for Ethiopian restaurants in Downtown Seattle, and after coming across a bunch that shut down due to 'inexplicable reasons', I came up with one that looked pretty promising. The website was informative. The pictures were enticing. The menu looked reasonable. The reviews were more than positive. Jackpot!

Me: (Distinctly proud of my online searching abilities) Hey I found this really nice place on Cherry Lane. The ratings are pretty high. It seems to be a popular joint. Here's the link to the website. Have a look and let me know what you think.
Brat: (a couple of minutes later) Sounds good. What time?
Me: Between 5.30 and 6.00. I'll give you a call when I leave. It should take me not more than forty minutes. It'll take you twenty minutes tops.
Brat: Coolio. Yo. C u den. (He often used words I didn't really understand. But it sounded vaguely like a yes.)

Next day I left work early and as promised gave him a call at 5.00. He didn't pick up. Obviously. I left him a message saying I was about to leave, hoping he would hear it in time. But going by the above mentioned conversation, I was positive that he'd be there by 6.00 latest. Smiling to myself at the prospect of mouth-watering Ethiopian delicacies and contemplating how well I had evolved socially thanks to dear friend Brat, I headed to Cherry Lane; naive and trusting. Except when I got off the bus, I was in for a rude shock. The neighbourhood was shady to say the least, with none of the promised cherry trees in sight. People decked in bling and leather were walking around, smoking what I suspected to be weed. I decided to get out of this place as soon as possible, and was thankful for spring and the longer days it brings with it. Nothing bad can happen while the sun is out right? However I was glad I wouldn't be stuck here alone and dialed Brat in a surge of kinship.

Me: Hey, where you at?
Brat: Err.. Have you reached?
Me: Yes. I said I'd be here by 6.00. I gave you a call an hour back. Have you checked your messages?
Brat: Hmm. I thought you said you'd take an hour.
Me: (voice mounting the scales, slowly and gradually) I did take an hour.
Brat: Sorry dude. I missed your call.
Me: But either way I told you I'd be here by 6.00!
Brat: (conveniently ignoring the indignation) Dude, I'm walking towards the bus stop.
Me: Where the hell are you?
Brat: I'm at Pike Place Market.
Me: (impatiently) What the hell were you doing there?
Brat: (casually) Nothing really.
Me: (taking deep breaths) Do you know which bus to take?
Brat: Err... No.
Me: (trying hard to keep my rapidly thumping heart from rupturing a vessel) Did you even check up the address of the restaurant? It was on their website.
Brat: (cool as a cucumber) Nope. (As if he had done me a favour)
Me: (still trying to be generous) Okay. I'll help you out. Do you have google maps on your phone?
Brat: Err.. pause.. I guess.
Me: (almost yelling, but trying not to attract the attention of the occassional weed-smoking passerby) What do you mean? Do you have it or not?!!
Brat: Yes yes. I do. I remember now. Actually its my girlfriend's phone.

I didn't care two hoots about who's goddam phone it was. I told him to make it fast and hung up. So here I was stuck in a questionable neighbourhood, feeling terribly out of place, waiting for the most irresponsible person to find his way through an absolutely unknown city. Great! I turned up the music in my ears in an effort to drown my frustration in it, and went about looking for a place to sit and wait for an indefinite period of time. Little did I know that finding a place to wait it out would turn out to be such a formidable task on its own. After a few aimless rounds around the neighbourhood, I chanced upon a park. Not a deserted one, but one filled with giggling pint-sized kids and their beaming parents. Nothing on the planet could be safer than that! I smiled to myself and strutted through the entrance, with a content air of achievement. As I made myself comfortable on a solitary bench near the swings, a cursory glance around told me that I was the cynosure of all eyes. Needless to say, the stares weren't welcome. I couldn't, for the life of me, understand why that would be. And suddenly I had an epiphany. This park was primarily meant for the recreation of five year olds and their parents, and unfortunately I was neither. And as God is my witness, I had never wanted a child so badly than during that dragging hour spent in Garfield park! In the effort to raise the white kerchief, I tried my best to gauge a kid's attention, forcing a plastic toothy smile from time to time, which made my jowls hurt. The kid paused for a moment and having decided I was a creep after ample deliberation, promptly went about his business of rolling in the sand, occasionally shooting me tiny baby daggers. I guess my 'Ole-Baby' face needs a lot of work.

I sat for an hour through sundown in the freezing cold, dodging unwelcome eye-contact from people around me, before I got a call from darling Brat. He had FINALLY reached the damned restaurant. While he was busy profusely apologizing for being late and telling me how he had missed the same bus three times over (?), I could only think of different ways to bang his head against the wall. The next hour was spent in hearing more mind-boggling Brat stories. He had apparently planned to go to Vancouver to meet a 'special friend', Seattle being a brief stopover. Sounded like a wonderful plan. The only glitch being, his visa had not been approved yet, and he was also missing essential travel signatures from his University. How the hell was he planning to go to Canada without a visa?!! The border patrol might consist of well-meaning generous individuals, but I couldn't imagine how they could change the law of the country for making a meeting with a 'special-friend' happen. It reminded me of the J. P. Dutta Bollywood yawnfest 'Refugee' where the only thing that Abhishek Bachhan did throughout those excruciating three hours, was to run endlessly from India to Pakistan and back, smuggling people across the border. The amount of running that he did in his debut alone made me wonder why he had never tried out for the Olympics.

The food was the only saving grace of the evening. It was delicious and totally worth the effort. I wanted to rush to the kitchen and hug the cook for bringing me comfort food on an especially bad day. Brat remarked, "Dude! This is yum! Its exactly like dal chawal." So much for exotic ethnic cuisine! After he insisted on paying for dinner (That's the least that he could have done anyway!) we headed out. The alley was pitch dark with a couple of dim street lights blinking sadly in the distance. There was not a soul in sight. The only noise I could hear were our footsteps and the din of the cicadas. As we neared the bus stop, we could see two huge men in leather jackets and hoodies pacing in the distance. They could be nothing but drug dealers. I was sure I would be mugged that day, and having nothing but a heavy wallet, my blackberry and a brand new iPod in my pocket, I found myself strangely vulnerable. Being the generous man that my parents raised me to be I decided to first get Brat on his bus home, although my instincts told me to run for dear life. Brat left in minutes, burping and rubbing his sagging belly, while I was left alone waiting for my bus. Those ten minutes were the longest ten minutes of my life. The bus stop was on the other side of the road, tucked away from regular sight, with no light or visible signage. I tiptoed towards it avoiding contact with the towering supposed drug dealers and  keeping my eye out for homeless meth addicts possibly huddled in the dark. I kept my black hood on in an effort to camouflage. I cursed my stars for not having attended karate school when I was a kid. As I was busy rehearsing my lines to avoid being stabbed for cash, I saw the semblance of a vehicle in the distance. It was the 48. It was my bus. I dived in through the open doors and almost landed on the benevolent smiling driver's lap. I felt my heart. I felt my pockets. I felt my throat. They were all intact. I guess there was a God after all. I decided on keeping a set of rosary beads handy next time, especially for such trying times.

Brat did not make it to Canada after all. You don't need to be a rocket scientist to get that right. He spent the next couple of nights on someone's couch he had rented online from a website I had never heard about before this. He tried to convince me that it was a great living option, as it was cheap and the guy he was living with was really nice and was not a serial killer. He said the latter with such finality that I did not bother contesting it. He met his 'special friend' and rented a motel in Bellingham. Incidentally, the motel was owned by a Sardar family, and Brat ofcourse made the most of their charity and goodwill. He had free meals comprising makkhi ki roti, dal, ghee and sabzee for the next four days and was a tad disappointed when he didn't manage to get a discount on room rent on top of that. He met me a couple of times for the odd lunch/dinner, choosing vegetarian Thai food and burgers/fries over delicious middle-Eastern lamb gyros. He even insisted on an Indian restaurant, ignoring my apprehensions about it being overpriced, ordering  a plate of kebabs worth twenty bucks and later cancelling the order and walking out as if nothing had happened. He stayed in my apartment the night before he left, politely turning down the offer to sleep in the living room and grumbling about my sleeping bags being not so comfortable. I had to steel my roommate's blanket and sponge mattress for the night, only to ensure additional padding for his cushy spoilt behind. He even requested for a spare key to my apartment and wanted to work on my laptop, where I decided sternly to draw the line. The only things I gained out of this experience were a bottle of red wine and an amusing story to tell.

I will hereby take this opportunity to plead to the million struggling parents out there, that they should spend a little more time teaching their kids the value of punctuality, responsibility and compromise, rather than be content leaving them with nannies. For once they grow up, its all too late, and harmless innocent people like me have to bear the brunt of the baggage that they have grown to be. I'm seriously contemplating whether having kids in the future is a good idea or not, as I don't want to add to the existing bundle of caprice in the world. And in the unfortunate event that they do turn out to be brats, I guess I would have no choice but to kill myself.

R.I.P.